Thursday, June 30, 2011

For the record- Diesel is cheaper than gas right now in btown. Gotta love it!

Disney Princesses

When I was little, I wasn't into the whole princess thing. I'd've much rather played in the dirt and shoot guns(And I did!) Disney princesses are typically young,beautiful, friendly, caring, and courteous. And generally speaking they don't have any desire to be anything besides a housewife with babies(Yes, I know that there are exceptions to this in the Disney princess line. However, the most popular Disney princesses aren't the ones had drive and initiative to go against the grain.)

Disney princesses don't do anything for the name of womankind. It sets up a story in which the princess or "heroine", as I've heard them called, is almost always eventually saved from tragedy by her prince. Last time I checked, there isn't a prince waiting around the corner to "save" me. I don't think I need saving either. I love that I have people in my life who would be willing to save me-however I'm not that girl who needs saving. I would have hated to have been one of those girls who realized as she grew up that life wasn't a Disney movie.

So in closing I'm going to quote a friend.

"I hope you're not a Disney princess... They always end up needing saving, and I like to think you're more kick-ass than that"

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Better than English

So I found this awesome blog. It's called Better Than English. I've stolen my favorite words from it to share with you. :)

-Pochemuchka(Russian)-A person asking "why?" all the time. (This is for you, Pete!)
-Le Mot Juste(French)- The right word at exactly the right time.
-Cafuné(Portuguese)-To repeatedly run your fingers through someones hair. Usually done in a soft and affectionate manner. (Love this!!!)
-Baraka(Arabic)-A gift of spiritual energy that can be transferred to others.
-Dona(Yamana, Chile)-To take lice from a person's head and squash them between one's teeth. (This one is really really gross!)
-Rasliubit(Russian)-To fall out of love.
-La petite mort(French)-Literally,"The Little Death"; a metaphor for orgasm.
-Wabi(Japanese)-A flawed detail that creates an elegant whole

And my very favorite...

Backpheinfengesicht(German)-"A face badly in need of a fist."

On pet rats.

Think what you want about rats as pets- but Ella just ate a scary as hell flying creepy crawly. I think that's pretty awesome.

If I could be any animal in the world I'd be a panda.

The title more or less says it all. I think pandas are very cool. But I'd be a panda for a couple of reasons.

A) they're endangered- so there would be people looking out for the safety of me and my babies. B) They're only fertile once a year for two or three days. So to me that means that I'd only be a bleedy, crampy, clumsy mess once a year. Yes please!!! They're also pregnant for less time than humans- but they have more babies. So maybe it evens out.
C) They bamboo. Need I say more!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Is modesty a virtue?

  1. The quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one's abilities
    • - with typical modesty he insisted on sharing the credit with others

  2. The quality of being relatively moderate, limited, or small in amount, rate, or level
    • - the modesty of his political aspirations

  3. Behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency
    • - modesty forbade her to undress in front of so many people

I spend a lot of time making fun of modesty. particularly how the Church does modesty. In my opinion, when the church preaches modestly it tends to be unequal. In my expierance,women bear all the responsibility for not causing men to stumble as far as modesty goes. In youth group, it was always our(young womens') responsibility to cover up our chests and bottoms so boys didn't get hard seeing us in our swimwear(because clearly, they only get wood at appropriate times anyway.) God forbid that happen, because surely the young women in question would have gotten a lecture about how they are a stumbling block( If I didn't know better, I might think this is a blog post about how the Church hates women. But it isn't- that is a different blog post. I swear!)

But there is more to modesty than just how you dress. Take,for example, the girl who walks into class 15 minutes late, wearing what is clearly her boyfriends' wrinkled button down with hickeys all around her neck. She has managed to communicate without a single word exactly what she spent this morning doing and why she's late. She might not be showing any cleavage, nor too much leg. But no one is in doubt in anyone's mind about what she has been doing in recent history. Is that immodest?

But is modesty a virtue? 3 out of the 4 guys I asked said it was without hesitation. The 4th guy said that it's a good idea most of the time.

PostSecret Sundays

"I learned more about how to be a good person from these books(Harry Potter books) than I ever did from a religious text"

I think it's far easier to learn from books that are easy read and interesting as opposed to lots of religious texts.

"Dear interviewer,
I'll be whomever you want me to be. Just please Hire me."

When I first read this one I thought that "damn straight." But I wouldn't. I can't pretend to think that gay people are bound for hell, or that abortion is something that should be fought at all costs. I also can't nod along with most religious doctrine. So I can't be whomever you want, but that's a good thing. It means I have personality and spark and can't accept some things as truth- and I think that's a good thing.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

For Good-Wicked

I've heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return

I believe this is true and whether or not our lives cross paths again I genuinely wish you the best. I teetered on the edge of ending our conversation with "love you", but didn't want to make it more awkward. But now you know I suppose.

I am flattered that I've been a highlight of your year,but I pray that you find a better highlight than me. Also, please know that you didn't disappoint me. I get it. I promise. Don't feel guilty about it. I only hope that after you figure out your end of things we can exchange friendly emails.

OK. I'm done. That's all the word vomit I have about this.

Mitch Daniels.

For those of you that aren't Hoosiers, Mitch Daniels is the Governor of Indiana. He is one of those charming Republicans- We know how much I love them.

This lovely man has done lots of charming things. He's "reformed" education so that teachers get paid based on how well their students test. He's building more charter schools- those have clearly proven to do better than public schools. In Indiana, 95 percent of the state has no access to an abortion clinic. I'm lucky to live in one that does. Mitch Daniels took it upon himself to defund all of those places. Defunding Planned Parenthood has done so much more than just make it harder to get an abortion. He reformed the property taxes. So libraries(read: my mothers work place) and schools lost money, because clearly those places are just overflowing with money to start. He also supported the ban on marriage equality here. This man is clearly a credit to our fine state.

He was going to run for president- but he decided against it for the sake of his family. Thank God for that. It would have been really hard for me to vote against him. Anyway. This rant all started with the fact that NY has passed a marriage quality act!!! Go them! Now Indiana needs to get with the program. Perhaps the next Governor will get with it. Le Sigh.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

I miss the old times

I miss sitting around that perpetual bonfire and laughing before you two dated things went to hell. I miss how we could sit in silence and not have it be awkward silence. Sometimes when I find myself at my moms house I wonder how much of a miracle it would take for us to go back to that. I remember how shitty mom was when I came home at 4AM that one night from your house(like there was just one.) It was so worth it though. You and BJ made my last semester at tucker worth every second. I wonder if you'd still bust balls for me if I asked you to. I wonder if both of you still read this.

I saw change coming. I knew it'd happen. I kind of thought that even back then, we might survive and still be talking now. I guess I was wrong. Even though I can't remember when we last talked,I hope you're both doing OK though.

"Let's unwrite these pages and replace them with our own words..."

Dear you,

I read your journal yesterday. I didn't know how else to tell you this. I'm so sorry kiddo. I had no idea. Take care of yourself.



PS: If you read this, let me know somehow?

Wednesday, June 22, 2011


"Despite the walls you build, I'm here. You don't have to be on your own."

We all have walls that separate parts of our lives. For lots of people it's like their plates- their foods don't touch. Aspects of their lives are separate and independent from other aspects. I'm no exception, in fact I may be worse than lots of other people about this. I don't really know.

I do know that you have those walls built up to protect yourself and I understand that. I promise not to go knocking down those walls without a good reason. I also promise that if you chose to let me to those aspects that are the most heavily protected that I'll keep your trust and I'd hope you'd keep mine.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Post Secret Sundays

"We all need saving sometimes."

It's true kids. We do all need saving sometimes. Whatever you need saving from- please don't be afraid to reach out.

I have new shoes!!!!!

I have new shoes. and I also have new PJ pants with the pac man ghosts on them and they say "Eat Me"


Saturday, June 18, 2011

Staying Safe

With Lauren Spierer missing from B-town for two weeks with no solid leads there is a lot of talk about staying safe on a college campus. I freely admit that when I'm not looking forward to orientation because there is going to be way more emphasis on staying safe than there used to be. Despite how most of us have heard this lecture 1001 times it doesn't hurt to tell it again, because there is always someone who hasn't heard it. So in the spirit of that here is my list of how to stay safe in college.

-Get pepper spray if it's legal in your state/allowed on your college campus.
-Get a "rape whistle."
-Find good friends who are willing to walk to your dorm/your car/ your apartment or wait with you at the bus stop.
-Your college campus probably has a escort service through campus PD, use them. Seriously, I know it feels stupid having them walk you 3 blocks to your dorm- but use them.
-When you go party, don't leave your friends. You go together, you leave together. No exceptions. (And please have a designated driver!)
-Most importantly, follow your gut. There are essentially two kinds of guys in the world- the safe kind and the unsafe kind. And you'll probably know which kind you're talking to within in the first five minutes.
-Save campus PD's number in your phone as well as the campus counseling office phone number. Both are good numbers to have easy access to.
-Lastly, don't miss out on college because you're afraid. It is what you make it- and if you make it a great four(or five) years of your life then it will be.

No matter how Lauren Spierers' story ends, this conversation will be had a hundred fold among college students, their parents, and college administrations. I only hope that the conversations are productive.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Casual Sex.

I had a recent conversation with a friend he said that it was easier to for women to get laid(read:casual sex) than men. I can walk through Walmart and proposition men to sleep with me, and most would probably say yes on the merit that I have identifiable breasts. While I agree with that statement, I disagree that it is easier to get laid because I'm a woman. Techically speaking, it is easier for me to get laid than a man just as long as I'm not picky about who I sleep with. But I'm talking about more than that.

As a woman, I pay a different price for getting laid than a man. I'm not talking about just financial costs, though there is a tendency in western society for women to bear all the costs for preventing pregnancy(PS: Guys, you should really split the cost of your girlfriends birth control if you're both reaping benefits. But that is really another blog post all together) A womans' sexual history is far more likely to be used against her. And god forbid a woman who was into kink, or any other non-mainstream sexuality, be raped. That fact would get paraded about the courtroom 1001 different ways.

At the end of the day it isn't fair for either sex. Men have to stand out and women have to hope they blend in just enough without becoming a wallflower. I wish had a solution that was doable for this problem. But I don't.

Wednesday, June 08, 2011

Dani was on the news!

click me!! See that girl. She eats my food alot.

Click me if the first link didn't work.(though I can't promise this one will work for non-Americans either.)

Back to the serious note about all this. Lauren has been missing for 5 days now. If you're in the Bloomington area there are searches three times a day at 11, 2, and 5:30. If you aren't in the Bloomington area pray, or keep Lauren and her family in your thoughts. Do whatever you do.

Find Lauren

Tuesday, June 07, 2011

Dear Lauren.

A local woman is missing. Click here for more information. I knew I wanted to blog about this- but I didn't know what I wanted to say. Without further ado

Dear Lauren,

I don't know you. I just hope you come home safe. We're looking for you, lots of us. We're praying for you to hold on and we're hopeful. So please hold on. My thoughts are with your family right now. I can't even imagine.


Sunday, June 05, 2011

FIber Festival!

Yesterday I went to the Hoosier Hills FiberArts Festival. I met my mom in Franklin, Indiana for the festival. 44 East between Martinsville and Franklin is such a pretty stretch of road. But to the fun stuff the goodies I got there. This first picture is the yarn I got there, 1200 yards of hand dyed silk. So so pretty. That was really the only yarn I bought there.

Mom and I ate lunch at The Willard in downtown Franklin. Now if you aren't from the midwest you might not understand just how delicious the next picture was. It was the best tenderloin I've ever had. Oh my gosh. The very best. Yummy.

Thursday, June 02, 2011

Dani and I are fun.

More Ella and Margo

Ella and Margo might become the worlds most photographed rats.

They get along just swimmingly. Ella has become loads more adventurous since I brought Margo home. home. She can scale down my back and slide down my pants to get to the floor. She has also learned to shimmy down the table her cage sits on. Ella is way more comfortable just to sit on my shoulder and hang out though. Ella will run up your pants if she gets the chance. Lemme tell you- It feels weird having a rat crawl up your pants. Margo loves to run around my bed, and my desk and my bookshelf. She loves climbing the bars of her cage. She's learning to scale down people and things to get to the floor.

Margo loves to climb the cage

Free Mary Kay make up!

So my advertisers gave me the gift of free Mary Kay make up. I don't wear make up all that often, but today I am. So I thought I'd take some photos for ya'll. The first picture is a picture is me :D The second photo is me with the free Mary Kay. :)

I'm really loving this make-up. But I don't love it so much I'll refill it when It runs out.