Saturday, November 19, 2011

Spring 2012 class schedule

So this is my class schedule for 2012, but it requires a bit of explanation. First thing you should notice is that this schedule contains 21 credit hours, which is a death sentence. I'm not taking 21 credit hours. The next thing you should notice is that I'm waitlisted for a class, HPER-C 366,Community health. So I'm actually in 18 credit hours, and waitlisted for 3. I'm going to drop down to 15 for spring semester though. I'm not sure which classes will be the final cut though.

HPER-H 150 is children's health up to age 5.
HPER-F 317 class is a topical seminar over divorce and it's effect on children(I think.)
HPER-H 235 is obesity and health.
HPER-H 305 is womens health.
HPER-H 306 is mens health.
HPER-H 317 is a topical seminar over gender, communication, sexuality and health.

Friday, November 18, 2011

Harry Potter Marriage Proposal.

This is a really awesome idea. I think it's adorable- as long as it isn't my copy of Half-Blood Prince. If it's my personal copy of the Half-Blood Prince, I'm really shitty. My paperback copies of Harry Potter are littered with notes.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

It's a love hate sort of game.

I find myself wishing I could blog things I can't or shouldn't. Other bloggers know what I mean, things that aren't ok for public consumption, or aren't the publics' business, or involved parties wouldn't like it if I published posts about it, or maybe it's something I just can't bring myself to tell the whole wide world about. It's usually a combination of the three though. Either way- these are things that I really wish I could blog about.

I think about these things and wonder how my little blog would be different if I didn't care and posted it anyway. I wonder if it'd make me a better blogger- or perhaps if it wouldn't help at all.

Tuesday, November 01, 2011

Rascism and Homophobia

I was reading this article today and feel free and read it for yourself- but I'll summarize it real fast for those of you who don't want to. This local church does a production every year of what they call "a glimpse into hell." It featured scenes about homosexuality, abortion, racism, and alcohol. I think it's really interesting that they did scenes about homosexuality and racism in the same production.

“We told him he was born gay,” the demon said. “Who in their right mind would actually believe that? Now he’s gone forever, into eternal fire, with all the other perverted, twisted, sin-infested souls. We’ve got your alternative lifestyle — in hell.”

“These simpletons actually believe that they are the supreme race,” the demon said. “All these fools have done is bought into one of my biggest lies: racial hatred and

Racism is as bad as homophobia. If you take a stand against one, you should take a stand against the other. Racism is denying a subset of society privileges or rights based on race and what homophobes do is deny a subset of society privileges based who they sleep with. Is there a difference?

There are people that say there is a difference is that homosexuality is a choice and because it's a choice they don't deserve the same rights- but they are wrong. Believing and practicing whatever religion you choose to practice is also a choice and yet you can't be fired from your job based on who or what you pray to. In the majority of states GLBT people can be fired just because of who they find attractive. So even if homosexuality is a choice- it doesn't matter. It should be protected and it's a damn shame it isn't.


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Friday, October 14, 2011

10 reasons the birth control pill doesn't suck.

Read me.

I'm going to pick apart this article point by point because it's pissed me off so much.

1) Birth control raises your risk of breast cancer. Yes it does. But it doesn't double it. It raises by very little. It does significantly lower your risk for ovarian, uterine, and cervical cancer though. So I suppose it's a trade off.

2) The Pill is sexist. You're right. Margaret Sanger did believe in the power of eugenics- but that isn't why the pill was created. A woman named Katherine McKormic was married to a schizophrenic and wanted to prevent pregnancy because she didn't want to pass on the disease to their potential children. She partnered up with Margaret Sanger to create the pill, and by the way, lots of things were tested without informed consent back in the day. It wasn't unsual for the times.

3) The Pill makes it harder for women to find a good partner. This is sort of true, but not for the reasons they say so. Ok. I don't know of any studies on the matter, but I've heard from more than one person that after they or their partner got off the pill they changed. They liked a different kind of guy, they liked different things in bed after they got off the pill, or they liked a different kind of food better.

4)Divorce. Uh, what? Excuse me? The study it linked to was funded and written by "Physicians for Life." I bet it's not bias at all.

5)Bad sex. This happens. Sometimes when a woman goes on the pill her sex life goes down the drain, but fortunately there is a really easy solution to this problem. Go on a different pill. This is one of those side effects you should change your birth control pill for.

6) Attacks men. Alrighty then..."Increase in confusion, violence, masturbation and homosexual behavior?" What the flying fuck does that have to do with an increase in family planning options for women? Why do gay men care about the pill?

7) Ends life. The pill does not end life. Most birth control pills will not terminate an early pregnancy. There are, I believe, some that will maybe. Progesterone only pills maybe? Not sure on that. But that is beside the point.
Let us have a refresher course on how the pill works. The pill prevents ovulation while keeping the uterine walls thin and NOT blood rich. Keeping the uterine walls thin and not rich in blood makes it really really hard for the hypothetically fertilized egg to implant- that's assuming you've missed a pill/your birth control malfunctions and you ovulate.

While I'm on the topic of this I'd suggest you google what it takes for a pregnancy to actually happen because it's kind of a miracle when it does.

8) Turns boy fish into intersex fish. Ok. so, by this I'm going to assume that they mean that artificial hormones are bad for the environment. No shit sherlock. But here is when you really need to think about how diluted excess estrogen and progesterone will be by the time it hits the toilet bowl.

9) Putting pressure on women to provide the birth control. The fact that modern american society puts more pressure on women to be protected from accidental pregnancy isn't the pills fault. It's ours. Wanna change it? Have your boyfriend pay for half your birth control(provided you're in a monogamous relationship.) If you aren't in a monogamous relationship and many people are benefiting from your birth control pill, then it's much harder to work out who pays for what- but if that's you then you're creative. You can work it out.

10)The widespread use of contraception has lead to widespread increase in abortions. Bullshit. Bullshit. Every single reputable study says that access to contraception lowers abortion rates. Every single reputable study says that access to contraception lowers unplanned pregnancy rates. Every. Single. One.

Editors Note:

I know I've defended the pill quite a lot in this blog post- and I think the pill is great for some women. However ,IMO, the best form of birth control for women is the Paraguard IUC. It's hormone free and impossible to screw up for the most part, unless your clinician fucks up putting it in.

Sunday, October 02, 2011

Bank of America

So unless you've been living under a rock, you probably know that Bank of America is going to start charging for debit card purchases. Yeah, it's shitty. But what's really annoying me is customers acting like they have no power in this equation. Change your bank, change your payment method. There are other banks out there and there is more than one payment method.

Do that or pay the five dollar a month fee.

Side note: Lots of banks charge for individual debit purchases. I'm pretty sure mine does, I know it did when I opened my account. I just run my card as credit. So from my understanding it's just that debit purchase fee we're all used to reformatted.

I can't wait to see how this shake out though- because it will set a precedent for all the other banks, especially nation wide ones.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Rat Cage 2.0

So I've done a ton of work on my rat cage in the past month or so. I'll just upload the photos and let them speak for themselves.

You'll notice that their levels have been covered over with peel and stick vinyl flooring and I no longer use traditional small animal bedding. I use fabric with velcro sewn to one side. Their ball is held to the side of the cage with zipties and yes that is a stick across the top of the cage.

This is their box maze. It's grown from what was once this. The US Postal Service and I are indeed really good friends.

Nothing too interesting to note here except that zipties hold everything to the top of their cage and they really love chewing the zipties off.

This is the entire cage set up like it normally is.

Womanliness and toughness.

"There's a rumor going around that boys are tougher than girls! Oh please! Can you carry a 8 pound baby in your stomach for 9 months and survive hours of labor? Can you cook, clean, and talk on the phone all the at the same time? Can you bleed for a week and not die? Can you walk in 5inch heels? Can you cry all night then wake the next day like everything is ok? Remember guys, WOMEN ARE ONLY HELPLESS UNTIL THEIR NAIL POLISH DRIES! Put this on your wall if your proud to be a women ♥"**

This particular repost thingy is insulting to men,and that's the goal but it's also insulting to women in a much more subtle manner. What if you're one of the women who can't carry a baby to full term- how insensitive is that. And no I can't cook clean and talk on the phone at the same time- though I can cook and talk on the phone at the same time. I suppose I do bleed for a week and not die- but that's more of a biological accident rather than perceived toughness. As for walking in 5 Inch heels...Do you really think I can walk in heels period? Like for reals. I'm not really convinced that anyone can have a horrid night and wake up like everything is ok, man or woman.

Sidenote: Just exactly how vain does the line "Women are only helpless until their nail polish dries." sound?

So does the fact that I can't do 3 out of the 5 of these things make me less tough, or less womanly or both?

**I have left any and all grammar mistakes in this as is-despite how much they make me cringe

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

I Stand With Planned Parenthood.

I do stand with planned parenthood. I am pro-choice and I do think anti-choicers have their heads screwed on backwards. I have a facebook friend who is always linking to "news" stories from Now you'll excuse me if I don't believe that any article that comes out of to be unbiased. But that's beside the point.

I stand with Planned Parenthood because they are the only abortion provider in much of the United States and they perform both a valuable and needed service in our communities.

I stand with Planned Parenthood because no cost or low cost birth control is more cost effective than unplanned baby.

I stand with Planned Parenthood because abstinence only sex ed does not work.

On a side note this article was on the front page of the New York Times today. I also happen to think this elected clergy person has her head on backwards. But this has a bigger implication that I think is very cool. This article on the front page of the New York Times sends a very strong signal that we as American people are no longer willing to let slights like this sit on the back burner. I'm sure it's happened more than this one reported case- but I feel like the message has been sent that says it isn't ok to perpetuate bigotry in the work place and that is a message I can get behind.

Dear Ms. Belforti,
It actually is your job to leave your personal business at the door when you walk into work. You can't reformat how your county issues marriage licenses because you don't want to sign the marriage license for Sue and Jane. You've been elected by your county, and part of your duties include signing marriage licenses, so either sign marriage licenses or resign. Those are really your two choices.


Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Happy Birthday!

One of my favorite persons birthday is today!

sooo happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PS: call me.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Aloe Vera as Shaving Cream

I love aloe vera. I always keep at least one bottle in my fridge and today I was shaving my legs in my comfy chair because I have a hot date with the treadmill tomorrow. But anyway, I had The Roommate bring up the aloe with a water bottle to ward off any razor burn and used it as shaving cream and it's seriously the best and closest shave I've ever had.

My mind has officially been blown.

Sunday, September 11, 2011


Can you believe it's been ten years since 9/11? I've thought about this for a couple days now and I just don't know how to blog about this. So I guess I'll just post a question. Where were you? Where were you when it happened? Where were you when you fully understood it, if you were like me and didn't know the full weight of what had just happened?

Saturday, September 10, 2011

On 9/11

A thought struck me today as I was riding in the car with my roommate. A whole generation of kids don't know what 9/11 feels like and don't know what it feels like for America to not be fighting this war on terror.

It's so weird to me. I remember exactly where I was and how it broke down. I remember my Orchestra teachers' husband coming in and telling his wife they couldn't get ahold of their son. I remember being told that the pentagon and the world trade center had been hit at lunch. I remember that no one explained anything to us until my social studies teacher did, but most of all I remember how he did it. First, he drew a picture on the board to help demonstrate what happened and explained the magnitude of these buildings being targeted. Then he devoted the rest of class explaining that Islamic extremists did this, not all Muslims and that no matter what we were going to hear as it unfolded that it was really important to remember that all Middle Easterners aren't the enemy.

I think that's still important to remember. That all Muslims aren't terrorists. I think it's easy to forget.

Thursday, September 08, 2011

How to Survive College 101(serious version)

The school year has officially started once again(Go IU!) and as such I have been inspired to make such a post.

1. Actually go to class. I know you came to college expecting freedom, and most of your professors probably don't have an attendance policy but go to class. Don't skip class because you're tired, or because it's raining or snowing or cloudy. The day you skip will be the day the professor offers extra credit.
1. A) While you should go to class, it is also important to figure out the classes it's actually worth taking notes in, because you will have that professor who reads the textbook verbatim and as such taking notes won't actually help you pass said class.
1. B) Never get behind. It's an uphill battle to get caught back up.

2. Join a club. I know it sounds lame, but it's a really good way to meet people.

3. Dress appropriately for class and meetings with your advisor. This isn't so important for freshman and sophomores as it is for juniors and seniors. I'm not suggesting you wear suits and skirts to class, however your professors and advisors will make excellant references both before and graduation. Don't let their only image of you be in micro-minis and stretch tops or conversely in pants that sag to your knees.

4. At every single college you pay a fee called the "campus activity fee." That fee pays for entertainment on campus and for the campus gym. If you're paying for them you might as well use it.

5. Don't buy your books either a) new or b) from the bookstore on campus. Save your money and buy online or at another bookstore. Don't sell your books back to your on campus bookstore either- you'll get better money elsewhere. (Pro tip: Save all your notes/class powerpoints from a given class and sell them with your textbook to a person who has the same professor and section for a higher buyback value provided you did well in the class.)

6. Avoid 8AMs like the plague. nuff said.

7. If you're still dating your boyfriend/girlfriend from back home, do yourself a favor and break up with them now rather than waiting until thanksgiving, or maybe even new years.

8. Whatever lanyard/backpack/ keychain you received at orientation...don't carry it on campus. Save it, it's a great momento, but don't carry it around campus. You might as well walk around campus with a flashing neon sign that says " freshman" over your head.

9. Roommates suck for most people. If your RA doesn't make you sign a roommate contract, then do it anyway with your roommate.

10. Never walk alone if it can be helped. This is especially true for vagina owners.

I'm going to end with the best and worst bits of advice I got when I went to college.

The worst: "You only need ten pairs of panties."- My mother.
The Best:"Remember, no matter where you go to school murder is still illegal."-Brandon

2011 Walk to End Alzheimer's

I'm doing the 2011 Walk to End Alzheimer's with my family this month in honor of my grandmother Isabel. I'd encourage you to donate at this link.

Tuesday, September 06, 2011

So what service are you providing again?

“Understanding and caring for a woman is an innate ability and I feel I can provide women with the best care they deserve!” -Local OBGYN ad.

Are you offering to get me off, or give me a papsmear? I mean I suppose I need both- but I don’t generally expect both to come from one person.

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Presidential Election 2012

So, I've been sort of following the 2012 election. There have been 16(I think) republican candidates anounced...and 2 democratic candidates. But what I wanted to talk about was a republican named Fred Karger. This is a direct quote from his website

“I will work hard to end to Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, pass the federal Employment Anti-Discrimination law (ENDA), eliminate the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), make Gay Marriage the law of the land and make finding a cure for HIV / AIDS and a vaccine to prevent HIV a new national priority."
The part I want to talk about is " make Gay Marriage the law of the land." I'm assuming that he wants a federal law that makes it recognized. Now depending what this law will do, I may or may not support it. If it undermines states rights and forces marriage equality onto states who have resisted in the past, then thanks but no thanks. That sets a kind of precedent I don't want. However it if simply acknowledges gay marriage in the states that acknowledge gay marriage and grants federal marriage perks to gay couples in those states, then I would back that 100%.

My other general thoughts on the election so far is that the GOP is spitballing and seeing what sticks. It's sort of interesting to watch Bachmans antics, not gonna lie. But it's all too soon to tell.

Tuesday, August 02, 2011

Friends are the family you choose

They say that friends are the family you chose, if this is true, I wouldn't change a thing.

We share
furniture and food.
It seems that the only things we don't share are sex toys and underwear.

If friends are the family you choose, I wouldn't change a thing.

(Please make sure you click all the links in this post!)

Saturday, July 30, 2011

I HATE TAMPONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, I hate tampons. Every single time I use one I get what I believe is a yeast infection. I had to use a couple this weekend- but I thought I'd share my favorite yeast infection home remedies with you all!

Yogurt. Plain yogurt with live cultures in it. Fill a tampon applicator with the yogurt and freeze it. Once frozen insert it.

Olive oil. Smear it on your vulva. It'll help sooth the itchy burny feeling.

My favorite method- boric acid. This is something you probably don't have in your medicine cabinet. I had to order it online. You fill gel capsules with it and insert them into the vagina. You'll want to put a pad in your panties for this though, it comes out as really watery discharge. This is my go to method.

Anywho! now that I've shared my knowledge I'm going to bed!

Monday, July 25, 2011

How to have a great weekend in Chicago :)

Step 1: Meet a friend on the Post Secret Community. (Bonus points if you have the same name as them!)
Step 2: Talk to her for 3 years.
Step 3: Meet her in Chicago when she is there meeting up with her boyfriend.
Step 4: Get dinner at five guys and see the movie Horrible Bosses(Which is really funny, I laughed the whole time.)
Step 5: Get breakfast, get rained on, watch movies, go to the Lincoln Park Zoo, and get our nails done, eat a really delicious homecooked dinner made by this guy, and go to a burlesque show at a local bar.
Step 6: Go to the beach, get lunch, spend two hours in traffic attempting to go to the planetarium, end up going to the Wicker Park Music Festival then go to dinner.
Step 7: go home :(

I had a really great weekend. :) I hope we can do it again guys.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Anti-Choice Antics.

I was in Chicago this weekend!!!! I’ll blog about the finer points of my trip later. While I was in Chicago we went to the wicker park music festival. And while we were there Allie(My friends name is Allie too!!) and I saw a couple of college age guys wearing matching pro life t-shirts and handing out cards for some ministry in downtown Chicago. Allie and I went up and had a little conversation with them about their shirts and cards. While the pro life shirts and the ministry they were promoting were two separate organizations we had a very interesting conversation about abortion with them.

After explaining that the shirts and the ministry were two different organizations Allie pointed out that it would be more effective for women to wear pro life shirts because she isn’t very likely to discuss abortion with a man because pregnancy is a woman thing rather than a man thing. They kept repeating that pregnancy was a family thing. When pressed about why they were pro life they said and I quote “ Half of all babies aborted are male.”

“Pregnancy is a family thing.” This statement of there’s bothers me because it doesn’t have to be a family thing- in fact to assume that every pregnancy is a family thing is totally faulty. What if you’re raped and get pregnant? Is the resulting pregnancy a family thing? What if neither party is ready for a child? Is that still a family thing if neither party is ready for a child or the responsibility of being pregnant? Pro lifers can’t assume that pregnancy is a family thing. It’s always a woman thing, hopefully a family thing- but never a man thing(which does make me wonder why it’s mostly men who protest it publically), last time I checked men don’t carry babies to term.

“Half of all babies aborted are male.” First, I question the validity of that statement; I’d love to see the study that shows this. Second, this statement is really offensive. One of the tenants of the prolife movement is that every child is worth having- no matter what. Saying that half of all babies aborted are male is your reason for being pro life undermines that whole argument. It elevates one gender over another, which in case you missed it doesn’t sit well with most people today.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

I'm going to chicago this weekend!

I've been absent, I know. But I'm going to Chicago this weekend!!! I'll blog when I get back. I promise!

Monday, July 18, 2011

A little house keeping.

I noticed tonight that there was this purple ad that appeared over my content and followed me as I scrolled up or down. If anyone else notices this ad please let me know. If you happen to catch what the ad is advertising, I'd love it if you wrote that down too and let me know. You can email me, or comment or catch me on IM.

I'm going to talk to my ad company if it happens a second time. I'm sorry for any annoyance the ad causes any of my readers. I'm working on it, I promise!

Sunday, July 17, 2011

PostSecret Sundays

"We're both broken but I think together we can help each other be whole."

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Lessons from Harry Potter-Music

This post may include spoilers from the Harry Potter series, so if you haven't read it yet and you want to you might want to skip this post. Though if you haven't read the books by now- you probably don't want to.

"Ah, music," he said, wiping his eyes. "A magic beyond all we do here! And now, bedtime. Off you trot!" - Dumbledore, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone, page 128

It's interesting that in the Harry Potter universe music doesn't really make an appearance very often. It plays only a handful of times in the books that I can think of. In most peoples lives, teenagers especially, music plays a huge role. They do homework, work out, read, blog, clean and hang out with their friends while music plays. It is important to note that the tunes we hear more than once in the Harry Potter books are ones that promote healing and happiness, like the song that Fawkes the phoenix plays. Even in a world full magic, music can still trump spells and their side effects.

I think that for most people music is the closest thing to magic as we will experience on a regular basis. It's calms us, or pumps us up, and it reminds us that it's all going to be okay in the end.

IU Orientation!+ Where I've been recently.

I went to my IU orientation yesterday. It wasn't too bad. I took Dani with me and we played hookie for a couple of sessions.

I did the math placement test and got 9 out of 26 correct(thank God for lucky guesses!), ate lunch, and got scheduled for classes and got my student ID. I'm taking a math class, The Mafia and Other Italian Mysteries, Personal health, International Health and Social Issues, and Human Sexuality. Classes start on the 29th of August. I'm excited.

I have a really excellent excuse for where I've been the past week or so. We changed our internet provider and were without internet for a couple days. But I'm back!

Saturday, July 09, 2011

30 Days of me day 3

Post a picture with your friends.

So I have two photos. The first is Dani and I. I love this girl to bits, enough to drive her to work at 7:30 AM even.

The second is Brandon and I. He is my very best friend on the face of the planet. He'd do anything for me short of committing murder, though he might help me bury a body. He was also the one who gave the best advice I went to college with and I quote: "Murder is illegal no matter where you go to school."

Friday, July 08, 2011

If the Church Were Christian...

Affirming Our Potential Would Be More Important Than Condemning Our Brokenness. This is the title of the second chapter from the book, If The Church Were Christian by Philip Gulley

When I was a senior in high school, I spent most of my second semester busting my butt in an algebra two night class. This was my final credit for graduating with a core 40 diploma(which I didn't quite manage, but alas.) At the same time as this my church was running a confirmation class targeted for the youth group. These confirmation classes happened to fall on a night I was in math class.

By this point in my life, I knew that I wasn't going to attend the church after I left for college. Too much had happened both to and around me. It wasn't a shocker for anyone who knew the details, but apparently my pastor missed the finer points of the previous three years. She pulled me aside after church one Sunday and told me that she started the confirmation classes just for me and told me that if I was a good Christian I'd move my schedule around to make it work, rather than acknowledge that it was regrettable that I was in math class the nights these confirmation classes met.

The real kicker was that I was never expressed an interest to anyone to be confirmed in this church. I had no interest in being baptized in this church, nor becoming a member. My only interest was getting out and not coming back.

But when churches and Christians take seriously our human potential, they begin creating communities that affirm and encourage all people.-If The Church Were Christian, page 43
Too often the Bible is used to degrade the human spirit, often in an effort to save someones soul.-If The Church Were Christian, page 43
" My soul is just fine, thank you. In fact, it's never been better. "-If The Church Were Christian, page 41

Thursday, July 07, 2011

Day 2 of 30 days of me

Day 02- The meaning behind your Blog name

The long name of my blog is "Your daily dose of Vitamin A[llie]" and the short name is Vitamin Allie.

The meaning behind this is pretty straight forward. My name is Allie and I trust you can figure out the rest.

Wednesday, July 06, 2011

30 days of me. Day 1

30 days of me. :) "A recent picture of you and 10 interesting facts about yourself"

1. I knit pretty things.
2. I'm good at scrabble, just ask my friend Pete.
3. I have two pet rats, whom I adore.
4. My ex-boyfriend doubles as my roommate.
5. I recently started watching Community. It is the best thing on television(Thanks for the recommendation).
6. I hate my nose pierced for a while a couple years ago. I Really kind of miss it.
7. My dad wanted to name me Ruby because my older brother is named Jack. So we'd be Jack Ruby, as in the guy who killed Lee Harvey Oswald.
8. I do a lot of blogging from the bathtub.
9. I have a minor obsession with Shemar Moore and Matthew Grey Gubler. I'd do dirty dirty things to them. Yummy.
10.I have 9 reusable water bottles all different colors.

Tuesday, July 05, 2011

Lessons Learned From Harry Potter-Scars

This post may include spoilers from the Harry Potter series, so if you haven't read it yet and you want to you might want to skip this post. Though if you haven't read the books by now- you probably don't want to.

"Is that where-?" whispered Professor McGonagall.
"Yes," said Dumbledore. "He'll have that scar forever."
"Couldn't you do something about it, Dumbledore"
"Even if I could, I wouldn't. Scars can come in handy. I have myself above my left knee that is a perfect map of the London Underground. Well-give him here, Hagrid-We'd better this over with."

Harry Potter and the Sorcerers Stone, Page 15( US Paperback edition)

Dumbledore one of my favorite Harry Potter Characters and the source for lots of lessons in the series. Dumbledore is right. Scars do come in handy. In the Harry Potter universe, this scar hurt when Voldemort is nearby, or feeling strong emotion. It also enabled him to "read" Voldemorts' mind on occasion.

But scars come in handy in the real world too. They remind us of when we busted up our knees as teenagers goofing off in the woods, or that one time you got drunk and woke up with your leg all cut up. They remind us what we've been through and what we've survived. And they are a reminder that we could survive it again if we had to. Other types of scars, emotional ones, tend to send up red flags. Red flags that save us from getting in too deep, or from a relationship we're better off without.

Rat photos pt 2.

If anyone cares to see more photos of my pretty rats. Click here. I'll keep adding photos to it. So bookmark it if you're interested :)

New Hat Take II

I finished this hat today. I followed this pattern. Sort of. I modified it a bit. The ribbed edge can be folded up so it's extra warm, or worn flat. I knit closer to 10 inches before starting decreases. Then I followed the decrease pattern according to the original pattern.

Monday, July 04, 2011

Pretty Rats + New hat!

Ok. So. I know it's a lot of pictures. But They're just so cute. There is also a picture of my new winter hat posted. It's all the rage to make winter hats in the middle of summer.

Dearest Dani

Dearest Dani.

Waking up at 7:30 to drive you to work is an act of love I'd do for very few people. I love you. :)


Sunday, July 03, 2011

PostSecret Sundays

"I am Beautiful" and on the back of that one it says "Even here."

"I feel more beautiful without make up than I do with it." on the back it says "I feel like I have to wear it."

The one about make up is the one from this weeks set. The other one is from some set from forever ago. They're connected enough that I'm blogging them together.

Saturday, July 02, 2011

NaBloPoMo July and rats!

I'm attempting NaBloPoMo this month. We'll see. But todays post is cute rats. OK. I know I posed a bunch. I couldn't resist. They're just so freaking cute. The brown one is Ella and the black one is Margo. Every time the flash went off Ella jumped back a step, but Margo didn't seem to be bothered about it.

Ok. I'm leaving now. Dinner and a movie with Dani!

Friday, July 01, 2011

The Church and Women

Women get used to being relegated to certain roles. We might not like it and hopefully we fight it. But we get used to it. Lots of churches are even worse about this than other facets of life. And it all starts with the bible. The old testament is full of verses that subjugate women. Exodus chapters 20 and 21 are arguably the most misogynistic chapters in the bible. Go read them for yourself if you don't believe me. The new testament doesn't make things much better for women. We're still subservient and our purpose in life is to make babies and take care of the household.

Despite all that, there is one part of the new testament that really gets under my skin because it isn't blatent misogyny. The virgin birth. First of all it makes no sense. It's one of the parts of the bible that has gotten lost in translation so to speak. Unsurprisingly, churches use this to build up this grand image of Jesus, rather than acknowledge that Mary is a co-creator with both a sexual and genetic contributions to Christ. Because this isn't blatent in your face bigotry, it's easy not notice it, or think much of it. That is what makes it so scary.

What really amazes me is that it's 2011 and there aren't more of us standing up and asking why women aren't ordained pastors in some churches- or why there are families that raise their children to be housewives or otherwise have lots of children.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

For the record- Diesel is cheaper than gas right now in btown. Gotta love it!

Disney Princesses

When I was little, I wasn't into the whole princess thing. I'd've much rather played in the dirt and shoot guns(And I did!) Disney princesses are typically young,beautiful, friendly, caring, and courteous. And generally speaking they don't have any desire to be anything besides a housewife with babies(Yes, I know that there are exceptions to this in the Disney princess line. However, the most popular Disney princesses aren't the ones had drive and initiative to go against the grain.)

Disney princesses don't do anything for the name of womankind. It sets up a story in which the princess or "heroine", as I've heard them called, is almost always eventually saved from tragedy by her prince. Last time I checked, there isn't a prince waiting around the corner to "save" me. I don't think I need saving either. I love that I have people in my life who would be willing to save me-however I'm not that girl who needs saving. I would have hated to have been one of those girls who realized as she grew up that life wasn't a Disney movie.

So in closing I'm going to quote a friend.

"I hope you're not a Disney princess... They always end up needing saving, and I like to think you're more kick-ass than that"

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Better than English

So I found this awesome blog. It's called Better Than English. I've stolen my favorite words from it to share with you. :)

-Pochemuchka(Russian)-A person asking "why?" all the time. (This is for you, Pete!)
-Le Mot Juste(French)- The right word at exactly the right time.
-Cafuné(Portuguese)-To repeatedly run your fingers through someones hair. Usually done in a soft and affectionate manner. (Love this!!!)
-Baraka(Arabic)-A gift of spiritual energy that can be transferred to others.
-Dona(Yamana, Chile)-To take lice from a person's head and squash them between one's teeth. (This one is really really gross!)
-Rasliubit(Russian)-To fall out of love.
-La petite mort(French)-Literally,"The Little Death"; a metaphor for orgasm.
-Wabi(Japanese)-A flawed detail that creates an elegant whole

And my very favorite...

Backpheinfengesicht(German)-"A face badly in need of a fist."

On pet rats.

Think what you want about rats as pets- but Ella just ate a scary as hell flying creepy crawly. I think that's pretty awesome.

If I could be any animal in the world I'd be a panda.

The title more or less says it all. I think pandas are very cool. But I'd be a panda for a couple of reasons.

A) they're endangered- so there would be people looking out for the safety of me and my babies. B) They're only fertile once a year for two or three days. So to me that means that I'd only be a bleedy, crampy, clumsy mess once a year. Yes please!!! They're also pregnant for less time than humans- but they have more babies. So maybe it evens out.
C) They bamboo. Need I say more!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Is modesty a virtue?

  1. The quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one's abilities
    • - with typical modesty he insisted on sharing the credit with others

  2. The quality of being relatively moderate, limited, or small in amount, rate, or level
    • - the modesty of his political aspirations

  3. Behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency
    • - modesty forbade her to undress in front of so many people

I spend a lot of time making fun of modesty. particularly how the Church does modesty. In my opinion, when the church preaches modestly it tends to be unequal. In my expierance,women bear all the responsibility for not causing men to stumble as far as modesty goes. In youth group, it was always our(young womens') responsibility to cover up our chests and bottoms so boys didn't get hard seeing us in our swimwear(because clearly, they only get wood at appropriate times anyway.) God forbid that happen, because surely the young women in question would have gotten a lecture about how they are a stumbling block( If I didn't know better, I might think this is a blog post about how the Church hates women. But it isn't- that is a different blog post. I swear!)

But there is more to modesty than just how you dress. Take,for example, the girl who walks into class 15 minutes late, wearing what is clearly her boyfriends' wrinkled button down with hickeys all around her neck. She has managed to communicate without a single word exactly what she spent this morning doing and why she's late. She might not be showing any cleavage, nor too much leg. But no one is in doubt in anyone's mind about what she has been doing in recent history. Is that immodest?

But is modesty a virtue? 3 out of the 4 guys I asked said it was without hesitation. The 4th guy said that it's a good idea most of the time.

PostSecret Sundays

"I learned more about how to be a good person from these books(Harry Potter books) than I ever did from a religious text"

I think it's far easier to learn from books that are easy read and interesting as opposed to lots of religious texts.

"Dear interviewer,
I'll be whomever you want me to be. Just please Hire me."

When I first read this one I thought that "damn straight." But I wouldn't. I can't pretend to think that gay people are bound for hell, or that abortion is something that should be fought at all costs. I also can't nod along with most religious doctrine. So I can't be whomever you want, but that's a good thing. It means I have personality and spark and can't accept some things as truth- and I think that's a good thing.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

For Good-Wicked

I've heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return

I believe this is true and whether or not our lives cross paths again I genuinely wish you the best. I teetered on the edge of ending our conversation with "love you", but didn't want to make it more awkward. But now you know I suppose.

I am flattered that I've been a highlight of your year,but I pray that you find a better highlight than me. Also, please know that you didn't disappoint me. I get it. I promise. Don't feel guilty about it. I only hope that after you figure out your end of things we can exchange friendly emails.

OK. I'm done. That's all the word vomit I have about this.

Mitch Daniels.

For those of you that aren't Hoosiers, Mitch Daniels is the Governor of Indiana. He is one of those charming Republicans- We know how much I love them.

This lovely man has done lots of charming things. He's "reformed" education so that teachers get paid based on how well their students test. He's building more charter schools- those have clearly proven to do better than public schools. In Indiana, 95 percent of the state has no access to an abortion clinic. I'm lucky to live in one that does. Mitch Daniels took it upon himself to defund all of those places. Defunding Planned Parenthood has done so much more than just make it harder to get an abortion. He reformed the property taxes. So libraries(read: my mothers work place) and schools lost money, because clearly those places are just overflowing with money to start. He also supported the ban on marriage equality here. This man is clearly a credit to our fine state.

He was going to run for president- but he decided against it for the sake of his family. Thank God for that. It would have been really hard for me to vote against him. Anyway. This rant all started with the fact that NY has passed a marriage quality act!!! Go them! Now Indiana needs to get with the program. Perhaps the next Governor will get with it. Le Sigh.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

I miss the old times

I miss sitting around that perpetual bonfire and laughing before you two dated things went to hell. I miss how we could sit in silence and not have it be awkward silence. Sometimes when I find myself at my moms house I wonder how much of a miracle it would take for us to go back to that. I remember how shitty mom was when I came home at 4AM that one night from your house(like there was just one.) It was so worth it though. You and BJ made my last semester at tucker worth every second. I wonder if you'd still bust balls for me if I asked you to. I wonder if both of you still read this.

I saw change coming. I knew it'd happen. I kind of thought that even back then, we might survive and still be talking now. I guess I was wrong. Even though I can't remember when we last talked,I hope you're both doing OK though.

"Let's unwrite these pages and replace them with our own words..."

Dear you,

I read your journal yesterday. I didn't know how else to tell you this. I'm so sorry kiddo. I had no idea. Take care of yourself.



PS: If you read this, let me know somehow?

Wednesday, June 22, 2011


"Despite the walls you build, I'm here. You don't have to be on your own."

We all have walls that separate parts of our lives. For lots of people it's like their plates- their foods don't touch. Aspects of their lives are separate and independent from other aspects. I'm no exception, in fact I may be worse than lots of other people about this. I don't really know.

I do know that you have those walls built up to protect yourself and I understand that. I promise not to go knocking down those walls without a good reason. I also promise that if you chose to let me to those aspects that are the most heavily protected that I'll keep your trust and I'd hope you'd keep mine.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Post Secret Sundays

"We all need saving sometimes."

It's true kids. We do all need saving sometimes. Whatever you need saving from- please don't be afraid to reach out.

I have new shoes!!!!!

I have new shoes. and I also have new PJ pants with the pac man ghosts on them and they say "Eat Me"


Saturday, June 18, 2011

Staying Safe

With Lauren Spierer missing from B-town for two weeks with no solid leads there is a lot of talk about staying safe on a college campus. I freely admit that when I'm not looking forward to orientation because there is going to be way more emphasis on staying safe than there used to be. Despite how most of us have heard this lecture 1001 times it doesn't hurt to tell it again, because there is always someone who hasn't heard it. So in the spirit of that here is my list of how to stay safe in college.

-Get pepper spray if it's legal in your state/allowed on your college campus.
-Get a "rape whistle."
-Find good friends who are willing to walk to your dorm/your car/ your apartment or wait with you at the bus stop.
-Your college campus probably has a escort service through campus PD, use them. Seriously, I know it feels stupid having them walk you 3 blocks to your dorm- but use them.
-When you go party, don't leave your friends. You go together, you leave together. No exceptions. (And please have a designated driver!)
-Most importantly, follow your gut. There are essentially two kinds of guys in the world- the safe kind and the unsafe kind. And you'll probably know which kind you're talking to within in the first five minutes.
-Save campus PD's number in your phone as well as the campus counseling office phone number. Both are good numbers to have easy access to.
-Lastly, don't miss out on college because you're afraid. It is what you make it- and if you make it a great four(or five) years of your life then it will be.

No matter how Lauren Spierers' story ends, this conversation will be had a hundred fold among college students, their parents, and college administrations. I only hope that the conversations are productive.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Casual Sex.

I had a recent conversation with a friend he said that it was easier to for women to get laid(read:casual sex) than men. I can walk through Walmart and proposition men to sleep with me, and most would probably say yes on the merit that I have identifiable breasts. While I agree with that statement, I disagree that it is easier to get laid because I'm a woman. Techically speaking, it is easier for me to get laid than a man just as long as I'm not picky about who I sleep with. But I'm talking about more than that.

As a woman, I pay a different price for getting laid than a man. I'm not talking about just financial costs, though there is a tendency in western society for women to bear all the costs for preventing pregnancy(PS: Guys, you should really split the cost of your girlfriends birth control if you're both reaping benefits. But that is really another blog post all together) A womans' sexual history is far more likely to be used against her. And god forbid a woman who was into kink, or any other non-mainstream sexuality, be raped. That fact would get paraded about the courtroom 1001 different ways.

At the end of the day it isn't fair for either sex. Men have to stand out and women have to hope they blend in just enough without becoming a wallflower. I wish had a solution that was doable for this problem. But I don't.

Wednesday, June 08, 2011

Dani was on the news!

click me!! See that girl. She eats my food alot.

Click me if the first link didn't work.(though I can't promise this one will work for non-Americans either.)

Back to the serious note about all this. Lauren has been missing for 5 days now. If you're in the Bloomington area there are searches three times a day at 11, 2, and 5:30. If you aren't in the Bloomington area pray, or keep Lauren and her family in your thoughts. Do whatever you do.

Find Lauren

Tuesday, June 07, 2011

Dear Lauren.

A local woman is missing. Click here for more information. I knew I wanted to blog about this- but I didn't know what I wanted to say. Without further ado

Dear Lauren,

I don't know you. I just hope you come home safe. We're looking for you, lots of us. We're praying for you to hold on and we're hopeful. So please hold on. My thoughts are with your family right now. I can't even imagine.


Sunday, June 05, 2011

FIber Festival!

Yesterday I went to the Hoosier Hills FiberArts Festival. I met my mom in Franklin, Indiana for the festival. 44 East between Martinsville and Franklin is such a pretty stretch of road. But to the fun stuff the goodies I got there. This first picture is the yarn I got there, 1200 yards of hand dyed silk. So so pretty. That was really the only yarn I bought there.

Mom and I ate lunch at The Willard in downtown Franklin. Now if you aren't from the midwest you might not understand just how delicious the next picture was. It was the best tenderloin I've ever had. Oh my gosh. The very best. Yummy.

Thursday, June 02, 2011

Dani and I are fun.

More Ella and Margo

Ella and Margo might become the worlds most photographed rats.

They get along just swimmingly. Ella has become loads more adventurous since I brought Margo home. home. She can scale down my back and slide down my pants to get to the floor. She has also learned to shimmy down the table her cage sits on. Ella is way more comfortable just to sit on my shoulder and hang out though. Ella will run up your pants if she gets the chance. Lemme tell you- It feels weird having a rat crawl up your pants. Margo loves to run around my bed, and my desk and my bookshelf. She loves climbing the bars of her cage. She's learning to scale down people and things to get to the floor.

Margo loves to climb the cage

Free Mary Kay make up!

So my advertisers gave me the gift of free Mary Kay make up. I don't wear make up all that often, but today I am. So I thought I'd take some photos for ya'll. The first picture is a picture is me :D The second photo is me with the free Mary Kay. :)

I'm really loving this make-up. But I don't love it so much I'll refill it when It runs out.