Monday, December 06, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
1. Sexual intimacy outside of marriage carries the obvious risk of pregnancy and/or
sexually transmitted diseases. No birth control method is 100% effective. There also is
no birth control method that can protect from all STDs. Lets' say you have a paragaurd IUD( the non hormonal one which have like a 99.9&(planned parenthood) rate of effectiveness, that means that of the women on paragaurd .3 women will get pregnant. Now let's pretend that you use condoms on top of the IUD. Condoms alone have like a 98% rate of effectiveness(assuming you can use them perfectly, all the time every time). So that really makes the odds of you making babies like .00001. Ok so I kinda made that up, my point is that the odds that you'd make babies using both paragaurd and a condom are astronomical. The reason I picked paragaurd for this example is because it is in my opinion the best method of birth control for women, because it's non-hormonal and lasts for 5 years. I think that using hormones when they aren't medically needed isn't very wise.
2. When they are married, a man and a woman can feel more freedom to give and
respond physically and emotionally to each other without holding back. This is
because there is deep level of trust, security and acceptance that can grow out of the
marriage relationship that is not experienced outside of it. Marriage, as we tend to know it, is really just a piece of paper. It's a government contract that says if we split up then we have to split everything 50/50. Who says you can't have that same level of trust, security, and acceptance with a boyfriend, girlfriend, or fiance?
3. When a couple crosses over into physical intimacy prematurely, they tend to
become pre-occupied with that aspect of the relationship, neglecting everything else.
They may tend to begin to see each other as sex objects, instead of a whole person.
This will have a deteriorating effect on the relationship which can carry over into
marriage, if the couple stays together that long. I concede that this does tend to happen in relationships between teenagers, but is it an all together bad thing if that happens, at least part of the time in older relationships and marriage? I mean those in the relationship set the rules for the relationship. So if the people in the relationship are OK with being sex objects from the hours of 9-11 on Friday and Saturday nights?
4. For girls and women - Men are less likely to commit to a lifelong relationship with a
woman if they are able to have sex without the commitment. According to a recent
survey, one of the main reasons men give for not committing to a relationship is that
sex is so easy to get. In other words, if they can have pleasure without responsibility,
why not go for it?This point annoys me because it is really one sided, like women can't have desire and pleasure- but it's socially acceptable for men to seek that. I think that at some point in their lives every has a relationship like that where it's cheap thrills and all physical and that's ok- as long as you grow out of it.
5. Sexual intimacy before marriage often results in either one or both partners being
deeply wounded emotionally, especially if the couple breaks off the relationship. The
sexual union was designed to be a permanent bond and it cannot be broken without
damage. This is especially true for the Christian. The joining together physically of a
man and a woman is a symbolic act of “becoming one” as described in the Bible. The
implications of this are of course very serious and not to be taken lightly. Breaking up is hard. I don't think that anyone would deny that. But if you are in a deep, serous relationship with anyone and it ends regardless of how far you went sexually- that's going to leave a wound. I agree that the implications of sex "are very serious and should not be taken lightly" mostly because I don't want STDs, or babies.
6. If a couple has had premarital sexual experience, after marriage they may have a
problem in trusting each other fully, especially if there have been other sexual
partners. Lots of people bring baggage into a marriage and lots of different kinds of baggage. Some people bring in baggage from childhood abuse, or their own parents messy, ugly divorce, or addictions, or pyschological problems. I feel like those issues make who you slept with, or didn't sleep with look really really small.
7. When the individuals in a marriage have participated in premarital sexual relations
with other people, they may tend to compare (intentionally or not) their spouses with
other partners they have had. Also, memories can interfere with enjoyment of the
relationship as “ghosts” from past relationships create barriers between the two. I firmly believe that this doesn't have to be a bad thing. I think if you routinely tell your wife that your ex was better in bed than she is- your problem is probably way bigger than you slept with people before you got married. I really believe that the more people you date, kiss, fondle, what have you- the better spouse you'll eventually be. So many young Christians get married without a clue about their own sexuality. And dating lots of people helps you really grow into that. I'm not suggesting you sleep with every person you ever date, but with every person you have romantic interaction with you learn things you like, and things you don't like in your partner.
8. Couples who live together prior to marriage are more likely to get divorced than
those who don’t (this has been strongly indicated through statistics.) So, the idea of
living together for the purpose of having a “trial marriage” apparently hurts rather
than helps the couple in the long run if they decide to actually get married. So I've seen those studies- and I don't believe them because it seems like most of them are funded by people who against cohabitation and set up the study to end up with the desired result. Those studies also say that cohabitating couples relationships aren't as strong and their married counterparts and are more likely to split up. Who would you expect to work harder to work through their issues, a couple who has to pay a blood sucking lawyer to split up, or a couple who simply has to break the lease? But that seems like kind of a moot point to me. I mean, if a couple couldn't work though argument A how could they get married? It is all part of living and learning.
9. Premarital sexual experiences can lead to feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, anger,
etc. The individual may act out these feelings through self-destructive behavior such
as substance abuse or promiscuity.Premarital sexual experiences lead to guilt, low self-esteem and anger because of the way the church handles sex. The church is too busy telling kids just say no and not busy enough telling them sex and sexual urges and normal natural part of life and that while they need to be handled appropriately , they aren't worth feeling guilty over and that there are bigger things to worry about in life- like getting into college.
10. Premarital sex cheats us out of the best that God has for us. Sex between a man
and a woman is much more than a just a physical act. It involves emotions, the spirit
and the mind as well as the body. Only in marriage can two people fully express
themselves sexually and experience all that God designed them to experience in this
area. Maybe I'm just too jaded, but is sex really the best that God has for us. Surely God more up his sleeve than just sex.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Maybe the truth and the light is as simple as being a good person and the flying spaghetti monster in the sky will bless people accordingly- or maybe it will pull out a magnifying glass and set us on fire.
Tuesday, October 05, 2010
Now, not only is that totally inappropriate and not important to my job. It's offensive-because girls liking girls is offensive, because he wouldn't ask that to a boy at all. He simply wouldn't.
Girls liking girls is a fantasy, sexy, every mans dream. Boys liking boys is none of that. It's gross and for behind closed doors, that is if you ask lots of people. And it all comes back to girls being little more than sex toys for men to play with, arm candy. And until we close that loop, then we'll never be truly equal.
Friday, September 03, 2010
Skipping the boring parts, I have a few funny quotes from the first couple of weeks of class.
"It was straight, and now it's kinky" Human Biology
" Ya know, I sometimes dream about sleeping in."- world lit Prof.
I'm still working at the PE complex on campus. I don't have work study this semester so I don't know if they will keep me on as a part timer that'd be tight. But if they don't wanna keep me on as a part timer- then I'll finish up this degree and move on to the next part of life- which is rapidly approaching- Jesus Christ that is in four months.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Thursday, July 29, 2010
2. Regardless of what people think or have thought about my faith, or lack there of, I'm actually really jaded, and really have been since I was 16. I think that it probably doesn't have all the answers. But it might still be a good starting point. I have no plans to be involved with Vincennes University Campus Ministries next school year, and no real plans to find a church to attend.
3. Even though, in high school I didn't have much(read, any) school spirit and didn't give a damn then. I do now. I get pissed when people opt to bad mouth some aspects of MHS. Because contrary to popular belief you can get an excellent education at MHS and there are excellent teachers there who will bend over backwards. So don't diss MHS to me.
4. The Boys name is Steve, though most of you probably already knew that.
5. I have a love-hate relationship with one of my supervisors. She can be the worlds biggest bitch, but on the other hand she saved me a trip to the supervisors office by clocking me out after work on Tuesday. Bless her.
6. Damn. I can't think of a 6th. I'll get back to it.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
"When you drive me home we always pass the quickest route to get back to my house and go the longer way. I never tell you the shortcut because it means more time with you-even if it's just five extra minutes."
Friday, July 16, 2010
I remember when one of my good friends from high school got pregnant-everyone knew she'd keep it, she wouldn't abort it, or give it up for adoption. It was her baby though and through. And from what I've seen and heard she is an amazing mother making it work. But I was just so surprised because I expected her to finish her education first.
I love kids and I can't wait to have kids of my own. But I think that people who pop out children so young are cheating themselves and their children. I think children are the adventure of a lifetime- and totally worth it, but if you have them young, they are your only adventure. There is a great long list of adventures I want to have before attempting children.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
But now I know better. We would have made terrible lovers. We were never meant to be lovers anyway. We're much better as friends.
So here is to us, for being better friends than lovers. Here is to you, for happy engagement, and an even happier marriage. Here is to me, for I know you're always a phone call away and you'd turn the world upside down to help me out if you could.
We've been blessed beyond measure. And everything has worked out according to His plan- Even it isn't always hard to see.
Tuesday, July 06, 2010
It is my car!
She is a sundown orange, 2003, stick shift, TDi, Volkswagen New Beetle.
She is nameless right now. I like Ruffles for her. Or maybe Orange Blossom. I don't know. I'm open to suggestions.
Random factoid: The Boy and I can fit in the trunk- not together. But separately.
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Secret Gift 1&2.
Secret Gift 3.
Secret Gift 3 scares me quite a lot. It's like 41,312,445,213,123,142,352 miles of 3 by 5 rib. Secret Gift 1&2 looks easy and fun.
Wish me luck to finish by christmas!
Thursday, June 10, 2010
I'm on the phone right now with HigherOne- the bank account attached to my school ID- whoever thought of doing that is a freaking idiot- but that isn't the point.
I'm sure you are very sorry that all representives are busy. And I bet you're damn busy giving your customers your undivided attention- that is exactly why I heard this message enough times to get it typed out word for word. It occasionally creates a slightly long waiting period.....I'm not sure which descriptive word bothers me more- occasionally, or slightly.
So I have some apartment pictures to post. There will be more. Todays' room is the bedroom- where the magic happens.
The closet in the apartment is freaking huge. There is these two standard size closet rods then a third that is 5 or 6 feet long. I possess about 80% of the closet I think.
We do have matching dressers. The Boys mom brought it for me after i I moved in.
Friday, June 04, 2010
It pisses me off. Maybe it only pisses me off because I do reusable. Maybe it pisses me off because its a sales website.
"Before modern tampons and pads existed, they made their own out of whatever absorbent material was available to them, including cloth, sponge and grass."
Natural fibers are still the most absorbent that you can find. Remember you're first experience with pads/tampons when you learned your jeans were way better at absorbing your period that whatever you were using.
"At that time, people didn't talk about menstruation in public at all, especially to strangers. When you went to a drugstore to grab some pads, you put money into a special box on the counter without saying a word to the clerk and grabbed the box on the way out"
Ok we don't put out money in a special box anymore- but I some men and women who might wish we did. And I don't know a whole lotta people who talk about menstruation in public after say junior high. I think, that once my friends and I hit high school we got over our periods a little bit- that is we stopped talking about them every single sleepover like we had just gotten our first period again. They were only really brought up if someone needed a tampon.
"We're lucky. We have information at our fingertips - you're reading this on the Internet, aren't you? But we still have a way to go. So take the torch passed on from generations of women who helped get us here today. Talk openly about periods, vaginal health and your body. Keep asking questions and keep the torch alive."
Yes, talk openly about the fact that your vagina bleeds. But you'll probably find that you hit a wall- at least to a point. A lot of people just aren't interested. I agree that we are lucky to have all this information at our fingertips-but I think when poeple finally learn that you can pregnant on your period, or oral sex won't get you pregnant. I know some of my readers might have a duh..., moment when they read those two statements- but it is crazy how many women(and men!) don't know. Until that gap is bridged then we aren't there yet. Wherever "there" is.
Friday, May 28, 2010
I'll start with the introduction- and give all my readers an introduction to my history in the church. It's fractured. I have a very cynical view of churches- and really have since high school when I saw a good friend of mine be bullied, for lack of a better term, out. I saw a lot of people treated really poorly in church. I stuck it out in high school- and had some really amazing moments in high school youth group- I really loved it for some of it...and the rest of it I really didn't. I didn't form many lasting connections from my high school youth groups, only one or two. After I graduated high school I knew I wasn't going back to First Church( the church my family attended since forever and the church I spent the most time in.) And I guess as a result- Not many friendships really continued post high school.
I am no bible scholar. I attended Sunday school and youth group for a little under 4 years. Take what I say about the bible here with a grain of salt. Take quotes from the book with a grain of salt. Look them up yourself. Figure out if you agree with it- or disagree with it.
Now I'll start in about the book. The introduction starts off talking about the authors experience in churches. He then goes on to demonstrate how little we actually know about Jesus or the early church. I like the point he makes on page four, "For many of us it's difficult to imagine a world without the church. Even if Jesus didn't intend to start the church, it will likely endure in some form or another." As well as , " Whatever the word Christianity might meant at 0ne time, it now means- to many, many people- being nice." and ," So Christianity was something one inherited by virtue of his or her nationality... The criteria for the christian faith now seems to be this: If I say I am a christian, then I am one."
And couple quotes to close up this post with.
"My faith is informed by my experience as a roman catholic and a quaker, by my 25 years in pastoral ministry, by the many diverse people i have encountered in my life and by my growing conviction that Christianity is less a codified creed or doctorine and more an approach to life that emphasizes grace, is always on the side of human dignity, is always devoted to our spiritual growth and moral evolution, and is always commited to the ongoing search for truth, even if that search leads us away from institutional Christianity." page 8
"While these efforts have at times been a distraction, they have served to confirm my hunch that any religion whose goal is the exclusion of others is bound to fail, if only because it cannot ignite our imaginations and sustain our spirit." pages 8-9
Sunday, May 09, 2010
Tuesday, May 04, 2010
So where is home? I know I'll always be accepted at my moms house, no matter what. But it isn't home. Not anymore. I mean I guess I have family there, and a couple friends. Most of my friends are busy making lives for themselves like I'm doing in our college towns. I guess home is where I'm building my own life.
Sunday, May 02, 2010
Finals week is near. I have three finals. The on Friday the boy and are gonna go to Marion for a few days. I'll get a haircut and clean up my room and hang out with Bethany. It'll be fun. I am going to go job hunting and get a job and sign up for some online classes and spend the summer bumming around town
Monday, April 26, 2010
"I found this( note: "This is your moment. The right time is now.") inside a magazine on an airplane as soon as I arrived home, I took the ring I've had in my pocket for two years out and proposed to my girlfriend in the middle of the airport. She said Yes!"
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Monday, April 05, 2010
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
This tampon commercial amuses me greatly. Finally a feminine product commercial that recognizes that periods suck.
But there is a back story to this commercial. The original cut of this commercial said the word "vagina." Certain big name TV networks didn't like that. So Kotex subbed in "down under" instead. Big TV networks didn't like that either.
What is up with the sterilization of feminine products? I realize that there are 2 sides to the debate. Late night tv refers to male genetalia as everything but a penis. But the difference there is, it isn't usually advertising products, its often tv shows talking about sex or genitalia in conversation- not advertising serious products. I think that if they( advertisers) stop dancing around proper medical terminology then people would lose their fear of the word.
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Sunday, March 28, 2010
I bought a new bikey last Friday.
The purple bike in the second and third pictures is my old bike. She was a good bike. I had her for a long time.
The red bike in the First and Third pictures is my new bike. Her name is Maverick. And she is a very sexy bike. She came with a computer system thingy that tracks distance and speed and all that jazz.
I've put 40+ miles on her since I bought her. I bought her in Evansville and fitting her into The Boys little 2007 Kia Spectra was fun. Oh so fun.
For the record- my old bike is for sale- 40 bucks or best offer.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
It was an amazing week. Hurricane Katrinas' story isn't just the story of a hurricane. It's the story of 5 years worth of hope, perseverance and rebuilding.
Sunday, March 07, 2010
This is my third trip down here. I know that rebuilding and recovery moves slow. And it just amazes me that it moves so slow that 5 years later-houses still need mucked out and demoed. It just amazes me.
I am speechless.
I had a super killer time in N'awlins though.
I'm on the road to Mississippi. I'm super excited. I can't wait to see how the gulf coast has changed.
I vividly remember my first trip down to Mississippi. It was a wreckage of homes and lives in 2007. They were the most kind, generous, people I had ever met. Their perseverance, hope, and passionate people was so powerful. Two years after Katrina, they were still going strong, and rebuilding and when they talked about their future. Their entire lives were wrapped up in rebuilding their homes and communities. The destruction in 2007 was desecrated houses and ruble.
Fast forward to spring 2009. It is still destroyed around the gulf coast. It was a little tidier- and in some areas it was harder to see how much damage was actually done. I didn't really notice it until a homeowner is talking to us and pointing out where his neighbors used to live- and you see how many green spaces there are, empty lots where houses used to stand. Houses that had kids, and parents, and grandparents- that were gone. But those who are rebuilding are still looking to the future and still strong, and still passionate about rebuilding their lives
I am convinced that the people of the Gulf Coast are some of the strongest people ever. It has been four years since Katrina hit- and they are still looking forward, with a fire in their bellies. They still believe they can rebuild. I can't imagine rebuilding for 4 years- even though I've helped them do it.
Thursday, March 04, 2010
I am going back to Mississippi for the third time. I am excited. It will be fun. I am not particularly excited about some parts of the trip, but I'll see how it all sorts itself out before I post anything.
I shall post more next week. Watch my facebook statuses
and my twitter account- box_of_giggles
Monday, February 22, 2010
I guess I think it's so amazing because lots of women haven't a clue what goes on in their bodies- and they should. Lots of women are squeamish about their bodies I think- and I don't think they should be. I love that this project is so body friendly- and I like body friendly.
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Quoted from the page..."Girls Love 'em! & Moms Love 'em because their so convenient. The package can be carried in a purse or pocket.
Dads, Brothers and Boyfriends even love them!?????? Why?
Because . . .it keeps your business private. No Accidental Viewing!
Great for camping, work, friends house or any place that does not have proper disposal containers. You'll Love Em!"
That's just what I want! I want to put my used pad into this disposable pouch and stick it back in my purse! Hellz Yeah!
Saturday, February 20, 2010
The Boy got me Wicked: The Life and Times of The Wicked Witch of the West
and Son of a Witch: Volume Two in the Wicked Years. He did good!
Today I worked on the new VUCM location, did wiring, and cement drilling, and insulating. And then I took a hot shower. The Boy and I made Veggie Pizza for dinner and it was effing delicious. it had cucumbers, broccoli, carrots, and black olives. It was yummy. I highly recommend you try it!
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Monday, February 01, 2010
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
I'll start with my schedule for the semester.
Monday: 11:00-11:50AM Childrens literature with Mr. Rogers.
3:00PM-7:00PM -Higher Bound
Tuesday: 12:30-1:45PM Computer technology for teachers
2:00-3:15PM Art Appreciation
3:00PM-7:00PM -Higher Bound
Wednesday:11:00-11:50AM Childrens literature with Mr. Rogers.
1:00-2:15PM Intro to education
6:00-7:40PM First Aid
Thursday: 12:30-1:45PM Computer technology for teachers
2:00-3:15PM Art Appreciation
3:00PM-7:00PM -Higher Bound
Friday: 11:00-11:50AM Childrens literature with Mr. Rogers.
3:00PM-7:00PM -Higher Bound
Sunday: 7:00 VCM
Childrens Lit is fun. I like reading childrens stories for a grade. My professors name is Mr. Rogers!!
Computer tech for teachers is bullshit. My professor spent 10 minutes talking about how to do a screen shot on a windows computer-where there is a nifty print screen button.
Art Appreciation-well it's special. My professor smiles the entire class. I want to punch her teeth out and see if she still smiles.
First Aid- It's fun. It's busy.
I also have a self paced World Civilizations class.
Higher Bound- I'm not sure if I've talked about that yet. It's Christian Ministry to middle schoolers. Mostly low income,at risk youth. It's fun. It's a challenge. but It's fun.
Also before Christmas I got my nose pierced. I'll post a picture of it soon.
Monday, January 25, 2010
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Saturday, January 02, 2010
In the evening on the 30th I had a holiday party of sorts with Higher Bound. School starts again on the 11th. Some Higher Bound volunteers and I took a road trip to Ikea on the 31st. The Boy and I ordered pizza on new years eve. On the first of the year we went to Evansville and did some random shopping. Today we went to a movie and ate subway.
Monday Higher Bound starts up again. Soo hoodlums and hanging out.
I never did do a New Years Resolution for 2010. Though I guess I'll try not to ignore my blog so much. I'm sorry I got busy and such with everything.